Divorced guys guide to dating
"Well, ladies, guess who benefits from those lessons? If he has kids, he's more accepting of yours—or your childless status.
On the one hand, Masini notes that these men won't amplify your ticking biological clock.
That's why, Iris, 62, who met her previously married husband on JDate, sees "being divorced as a strength…if the man has learned about himself and is able to embrace change," she says.2. Joining lives can go more smoothly with someone who's done so with someone else.
"Divorced men have experience sharing finances, a home and schedules. Talking about the future doesn't prompt most divorced guys to run for the hills the way it might lifelong older bachelors.
"Our previous marriages and subsequent divorces taught us what's important to fight for and how not to sweat the small stuff," she says.5. "Many marriages fail because men didn't realize that they wanted a woman with certain traits the first time around," says relationship expert April Masini,author of "Now they do, and you benefit from a man who's clear on this."Divorcés' straightforwardness can save you a lot of dating guesswork, adds clinical psychologist Ramani Durvasula, Ph D."They may be more upfront about their limitations and strengths resulting in less game-playing and time wasted in relationships that won't work."6. Consummating a marriage gives divorced guys a leg up on pure bachelors in the bedroom.
With any luck, "his ex taught him about the female body, what it takes to get a woman interested and how to give her an orgasm," he says.7. If he imagined post-wedding life to be perfect before he was divorced, he knows better now.
"Divorced men are no longer living in fantasy land,"Dr.
Lewis addsthat she has actually seen this in her own dating experiences.
"I have dated divorced men who've admitted they wish they had been more romantic, listened more, brought their wives flowers more often or had been more complimentary to their women," she says. He's "house-broken." Already having been married, divorced men come "trained," as Lewis puts it."They seem to naturally offer to do things that a lot of never-been-married don't think to do for another person," taking her car for an oil change to bringing her breakfast in bed. Carroll adds, in addition to being less attentive, men who have never been married typically need time to learn basic things like putting the seat down to letting their partners cry it out without trying to fix the issue.10.